No one gives much thought to using the words retard or retarded. Special Olympics is trying to save that.
Not too long ago, Special Olympics came out with a new campaign: Spread the Word to End the Word. This campaign is bringing the “r-word” to conversations, which seems counterintuitive, but it’s working. To date, over 10,000 people have pledged to end the use of the r-word in their conversations. The official date of the r-word campaign was 3.3.10, but the campaign continues in full force today.
Words hurt. As much as we hate to admit it, (“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” anyone?), words hurt. They sting. They boil our blood. Put yourself in the shoes of someone who is developmentally delayed, has a disability, or is generally categorized as special needs.
Now take the definition of retard. This word commonly means stupid, slow, dumb, etc. What are the common assumptions about people who are special needs? Stupid, slow, dumb, etc. In the past, people with special needs were considered retards. This word got a negative connotation and while it’s not a common connotation today, people are still offended by it. Those people happen to be the people who are considered special needs in one way or another.
In the past I mentioned that I teach several kids with special needs how to swim. Let me tell you, these kids are some of the most loving, caring, considerate kids that I’ve ever met. They seek to please, they want to succeed. They want to prove that they can do anything. If they can’t do it, they give 110% while trying.
They have feelings, too. People forget that. They don’t want to be labeled as stupid, slow or dumb. They want positive labels. Everyone wants to be labeled positively, right? Why would people think that those with special needs want to be labeled negatively or not have opinions on those negative labels? That’s why this is such a big deal. The r-word has such a negative connotation that Special Olympics is seeking to get rid of it all together. Some might argue that this is all about political correctness, which, I guess is correct, but this is also about being considerate. You never know who has a son, daughter, brother, sister, aunt, uncle, mom, dad, grandmother, grandfather or close friend who has special needs. You never know who you’re offending.
Today I ask you to be considerate. I ask you to remove the use of this word from your vocabulary. I ask you to pledge to not use it again. We don’t like being labeled, why should anyone else? Before you argue about the use of stupid, dumb and slow, I ask you to consider this: would you like to be labeled as such? Would you like to have that label to follow you or would you rather a label follow you that is less offensive and carries more truth?